When I checked my email this morning I had the usual slew of wedding-related emails – the newest sale at David’s Bridal, $250 bridesmaid dresses that are such a good deal, amazing $4800 photography packages that I can totally afford, etc. I also had an email with the subject “You Said Yes to the Dress, Now Say Yes to the Body.” It was from David’s Bridal Fitness Boot Camp. Yes, that’s right – a Bridal Fitness Boot Camp specifically designed for brides so that they can actually fit into the $2000 dress they just bought.
There’s certainly nothing wrong with getting in shape – I’m hoping to start working out again once we get a new apartment. However, I have a problem with the incredible push towards wedding weight loss for brides. Almost every wedding checklist I have seen has something around the 9 month mark that says “Start wedding diet and exercise regime” or something along those lines. If someone wants to lose weight anyway and use their upcoming wedding as a motivator, that’s great! However, those people probably don’t need a reminder in a wedding planning checklist. Making weight loss seem like an integral part of the wedding planning process just serves to make women uncomfortable with their bodies. For women who have struggled with eating disorders, seeing that item when they just want to know when to send their save the dates or book the caterer could be incredibly triggering.
My fiance proposed to me because he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. That isn’t contingent on me losing weight before the wedding. No one’s wedding is going to be called off because they don’t lose weight (if that’s the case, there probably shouldn’t be a wedding in the first place). Of course, we all want to look beautiful on our wedding day. However, people tend to describe beautiful brides as radiant. Not thin, not svelte, not model-esque. Radiant. And chances are that you’re going to be radiant on your wedding day no matter what your weight, because you’re marrying the man you love and happiness is the best beautifier.
So stop worrying about weight and start worrying about what really matters – like monogrammed cocktail napkins.