The wedding was amazing, but now that I’ve (almost) finished swooning over my photos I have to look at the numbers. As some of you may remember, my wedding budget was $2,000. Well it’s one thing to say that your budget is $X, but it’s an entirely different matter to stick to that budget. So here’s the big question: how much did it all actually cost in the end? Let me break it down for you.
(In US dollars)
80 Invitations and return address labels: $43.15
100 Save the Dates: $10.38
Roll of Stamps: $45
Chuppah Fabric: $30
Chuppah Letters: $18
Faux Flowers: $4
Flower stems: $4
Sheet Music: $2
Guest Book: $37.80
Baby’s breath: $30
Desert plates: $10
Total : $2530.82
So we went over our budget by about $500. That’s a fairly significant sum for people in our financial situation, but it’s far from the end of the world. Also, my parents paid for some things for us in addition to the wedding money they gave us.
As expected, the biggest costs were food, alcohol, and photography. We had a few costs that I didn’t anticipate: flowers, chairs, and champagne. However, the cake ended up costing quite a bit less than I expected since it came from Sam’s instead of the baker we wanted.
Of course, you may notice that many things you expect to see on wedding budgets are missing on ours. There’s no venue, DJ, officiant, hair, etc. That’s the wonderful thing about getting married near your family – you have built in help in the area. Our family and friends really stepped up and helped us immeasurably both in terms of just getting things set up and by saving us lots of money.
How we saved
Venue: We were so lucky to have my aunt and uncle let us use their beautiful farm for our wedding. It’s an amazing venue and it allowed us to have the wedding we wanted. I wanted an outdoor wedding, but most of the venues I looked at before we decided on the farm cost the entire wedding budget for four hours and the ones that had reasonable time periods were about twice as much as we wanted to spend on the entire wedding. The only place that would have been affordable enough for us would have required us to severely limit our guest list to make it so. They only charged a couple hundred dollars to rent the outside area for the ceremony, but the reception cost was per person based on catering (they catered themselves), which started at $26/person for just hors d’oeuvres. Considering the list my mom gave me of people on her side of the family we needed to invite had 40 people on it, we would have had to exclude a lot of people we really wanted to have there. It also couldn’t have been the kind of party we wanted, so my aunt and uncle really saved us with the venue.
Catering: If you did the math on the catering, you may have realized that $725 divided by 80 people comes out to just over $9/person – i.e. super cheap in terms of catering a wedding. The secret? Having an amazing cook in the family who does catering. My aunt, Billie, gave us an amazing deal on the catering, and it was absolutely delicious! To go with the British theme, she made shepherd’s pie for the meat eaters. She also made one of the best veggie lasagnas I’ve had for the vegetarians (though a lot of the meat eaters ate it too). When we got home, John’s only complaint was that we didn’t take any shepherd’s pie with us because he really wanted some more. If you’re wondering what to compare that $9/plate to, the only other catering option we found that would have been that little was a very basic taco bar from a Moe’s-style Mexican restaurant. That would have been cool, but that didn’t include any vegetarian options of extras like chips and salsa. Even pork barbeque (which I don’t eat, but beef or chicken would have been even more) was more expensive than that, especially when you added sides. A comparable meal at most of the places I contacted would have started at anywhere from $16/person to $25/person. The best part about using Billie was that we already knew she was a fabulous cook and that anything she made would be amazing!
Alcohol: So we didn’t save as much as we might have on the booze since we bought more than we needed (we expected more people to stay longer). However, we got the wine for $3.99/bottle from Trader Joe’s, and no, it wasn’t Two-Buck Chuck. No, it wasn’t the world’s best wine, but it wasn’t Boone’s Farm either. Some of the wines were better than others (my mom and maid of honor bought a selection of different wines at that price point – there were quite a few to choose from), but they were all comparable to the $6-7/bottle wines at most grocery stores. The beer was standard domestic cans from Ingles for $15.98. People may not have been wowed by our beer and wine selection, but, as far as I know, no one complained. The good thing about doing cans of beer instead of a keg was that the leftovers didn’t go to waste. Oh, and though we thought bottles would be classier, the cans were a bit cheaper and they were easier to recycle.
DJ: My aunt and uncle have a sound system at the farm, so we didn’t need to rent equipment and decided to save money by DIYing it. We asked my cousin, Brent, to MC for us and John’s friend, Danny (Ashtray), came with us to do the music during the ceremony since Brent didn’t think he’d make it in time. We just made playlists for the ceremony, dinner, and dancing. The only thing I think we should have done differently was putting the dancing playlist on random. We tried to put mostly upbeat, danceable songs in the playlist, but interspersed it with some slower songs so that people would be able to take breaks to talk or get more drinks. However, when it was on random we ended up with several very high energy dance songs in a row followed by a bunch of less dance-y songs. So basically, people who were into the high energy songs got tired quickly, then the slower songs that followed kind of killed the dancing. There were bursts of dancing throughout, but it never really took off. My advice: make the playlist in a set order.
Officiant: There aren’t many synagogues in the area, and none of them were willing to marry a Jew to a non-Jew. Basically, if we wanted a rabbi to perform the ceremony we would have had to pay a lot of money (officiant fee plus travel expenses) to “import” one. My mom mentioned htat their friend, Alan, was an officiant and might be willing to do it, so I asked her to find out how much he would charge. He ended up agreeing to do it for free, which was awesome. He was a really cool guy, and, as an added bonus, he looks vaguely like Jon Pertwee (and was just as tall).
Invitations: Groupons for Vistaprint were the secret there. Groupon and Living Social both pretty routinely run $17 for $70 of printing services for Vistaprint. The best part about Vistaprint is that if something is wrong with your order – even if it’s your fault – they’ll let you fix the problem and will resend it to you for free.
Those, of course, aren’t the only things we saved on, but those are the only ones I’m going to go into now. I’ll do another post on DIY chuppahs. If you have any specific questions, please ask in the comments.
We were so happy to find a way to have the wedding we wanted without breaking the bank or slashing the guest list. Of course, there are many ways to save on a wedding, and not everyone is lucky enough to have a free venue, great cooks in the family, or even be married close enough to home for their family and friends to be able to chip in that much. What do you think is the best way to save on weddings (other than the obvious go to the courthouse)?
I didn’t get around to posting anything on Saturday, because I was busy rephotograhing my birdcage veils with record fascinators. I also made a new one, which I quite like. I think they turned out quite well considering I shot them myself as I modeled them.
John got off of work early on Saturday and we spent the evening watching Doctor Who and eating hot dogs and tater tots (healthy, I know). I had gotten a Groupon for a 3.5 hour self-guided canoe trip in Durham for $15, so we were planning on spending Sunday doing that. Hélas, they require a reservation a week in advance, so it looks like that will be next Sunday’s outing. Instead, we went to the NC Museum of Life and Science in Durham. John has been wanting to take me there since our first date, but it never really worked out until yesterday.
First of all, let me point of to those of you who have plans (or will make plans) to get married in the Triangle area sometime in the future that you can also rent the museum for weddings. It’s definitely at the top of our list of places we would have the wedding if we had the money and were getting married around here. I have no idea how much it costs, since you have to contact someone for a rate quote, but I’m pretty sure it would be worth it however much it is. You can actually get married in the butterfly house. Oh and they have dinosaurs too. You can’t really beat it. Unless you got married at the Doctor Who Experience in London perhaps.
Okay, so I don’t really want to change my wedding venue. We love the farm and are extremely grateful to have such an awesome venue for free. However, John and I went to the North Carolina Museum of Natural Sciences on Sunday.
We were checking out the Acrocanthosaurus and saying how cool it would be to get married there.
It turns out, you can!
It’s not that expensive either (in the world of wedding venues). You can reserve different parts of the museum or rent out the whole thing (only at night of course). This is the part you can reserve with the dinosaurs.
It’s only $1,200 to get married in a musuem…with dinosaurs! You can even use their tables and chairs for free. Considering that before my aunt and uncle offered to let me use the farm I was getting quotes back from a lot of venues that ranged from $2,500 to $5,450 for six hour not including rentals, that’s pretty damn good. Especially since those venues, while pretty, were sadly lacking dinosaurs.
We really have no intention of changing our venue, and let’s face it, we couldn’t afford it anyway, but I wanted to share in case any other dino-nerds with more money want to get married there.
After wandering around the Museum of Natural Science for a while (and me running through the anthropod zoo trying to avoid looking at the centipedes and millipedes – they really freak me out), we went next door to the NC Museum of History. You can also rent the Museum of History for weddings, but it’s not something that screams awesome wedding to me.
Of course, like all history museums there were a number of pretty depressing exhibits, though they were pretty interesting too. They have an exhibit right now with photographs of child laborers in NC from 1908-1918. In the permanent exhibit, they obviously had displays about slavery, Jim Crow laws, and other awful things from our state’s past. They also had what must be the most horrifically terrifying KKK mask of all time.
Yes, apparently klan members haven’t always been content to dress up like crappy Halloween ghosts. Some of them used to dress up like demonic clowns. As though anyone needed another reason to hate the KKK. Or clowns.
Despite that terrifying visage, it was a really fun day at the museums, and luckily I avoided having centipede or clown infested nightmares that night.