I promised to write a longer post with all of the details today. It was a very bumpy ride, but in the end our wedding was amazing. This is a long post, so feel free to just look at the photos – I sum up the wedding fails and wedding wins at the end.
The night before the wedding, I wasn’t feeling too great and was extremely tired, so I went to bed and we didn’t add the lettering to the chuppah or write our vows like we planned. Instead, we set the alarm for fairly early so we could get up and get everything done before my makeup appointment at 11. The best laid plans….
I woke up at 6 the morning of the wedding vomiting. I should mention at this point that I almost never throw up – I may get horribly nauseous on occasion, but nothing every actually comes up. I have no idea if I had some sort of fleeting stomach bug or if it was nerves, but what I do know is that it was horrendous. I was completely miserable and all I could think was, “I’m not supposed to feel like this on my wedding day!” I couldn’t even keep anything I took for the nausea down for long. I finally took some old Phenergan (by the way Mom, that stuff expired seven years ago) which, while not completely effective, did prevent me from vomiting on the way to get my makeup done.
I thought my mom was going to take me to the makeup appointment, but she went to the farm early to set up there, so John took me and my maid of honor, Marie, to Asheville and dropped us off. Thankfully, one of my other bridesmaids, Allison, met us there and was able to take us to the farm. Even better, she brought non-drowsy Dramamine for me, which did wonders for my stomach.
The makeup didn’t take very long, so we went to the farm afterward where we met my cousin, Ali, who did my hair. Oh, and if you couldn’t tell, my braid hair extensions didn’t get there in time. Luckily, Ali is great with hair and curled and pinned my hair to perfection. My awesome photographer, Paula Roberts, was supposed to come at 2:30 to start photos, so John and I were planning on writing our vows before then. While waiting for photos and John, I started getting a bit hungry finally. I had completely forgotten about the whole food thing, but thankfully Allison brought a cooler of snacks (and champagne!). So we sat down upstairs at my aunt’s house (in my bra – I’d forgotten to bring a button-up shirt so I wouldn’t mess up my hair) and ate baguettes with goat cheese and sundried tomatoes and waited…
My mom called at one point, asking when my aunt was supposed to pick up the cake and cupcakes we ordered. I realized that the baker hadn’t replied to my last email asking when they’d be ready to be picked up, so I called to find out. When I asked the girl who answered the phone, she said, “Maybe you should talk to the owner,” and my heart sank. It turns out, he thought the wedding was in October for some reason, though we had been emailing and I’m quite certain I know what month my wedding is in. He sounded horrified that he’d gotten the month wrong, but he couldn’t do anything at that point.
Luckily, my aunt, Randi, and my cousin, Ali, came to the rescue. They went to Sam’s and got a sheet cake with red, blue, and white flowers for us. It may not have been the Guinness chocolate cake with Bailey’s icing and mini cupcakes we wanted, but it arrived in time and was gone by the end of the night, so I guess it worked out okay.
Meanwhile, John was with the guys, setting up the chuppah. When we set it up the day before, John decided that he should make a lattice of duct tape on the top to prevent the satin from sagging and that perhaps it should be tied to the fence in addition to having the poles shoved in the ground. John also had to put the lettering on, but he didn’t think it would take that long.
Cut to half an hour before the photographer is supposed to come. I’m looking out the window at my aunt’s house, trying to figure out why the guys were still working on the chuppah, which still didn’t have the fabric on it. I finally called John who said that it was too windy and they needed to stake it down and were having issues. They finally got it up and stable, but they didn’t start changing until right before the photographer arrived.
Paula and my cousin Briana (also a wonderful photographer) started taking photos of my and the bridesmaids first, then we did the whole wedding party, and then she shot just the guys while I was back at the house drinking champagne. By the time the photos were done, people were arriving, and I didn’t see John again until right before the ceremony, so we didn’t have vows written. We decided to wing it.
The processional was the Throne Room and End Title from Star Wars IV. I walked down the aisle with my dad and my step-dad to Queen’s version of the Wedding March from Flash Gordon. Our officiant read the rather brief ceremony we had written, then my maid of AWESOME read the Jewish ceremony. Marie did a fabulous job with the seven blessings and we are so grateful she was willing to do that for us. I got a bit teary at points, but every time John saw me get that “squinty look” he started making silly faces at me so I wouldn’t cry. I did at one point giggle out loud though, which I felt bad about because it was while Marie was reading the seven blessings.
When we got to the vows, they went something like this:
“I promise to take you to every vineyard in North Carolina at least twice”
“I promise to always go see the glockenspiels with you”
“I promise to always buy the big back of Jack Link beef jerky to share”
“I promise to always split the last piece with you”
“I promise to always make you watch movies from my childhood with bad special effects”
“I promise to always watch those movies no matter how terrible the special effects are.”
We exchanged rings, broke a glass, and then John and I walked back up the aisle as husband and wife to the 2008 Doctor Who theme.
The reception started immediately afterward since we already had almost all of the photos we needed (and because the reception venue was about 20 yards away), and it was a blast! I changed out of my 5″ glittery Union Jack platform boots into my Converse high-tops to facilitate dancing.
I hope all of our guests had a good time; we certainly did. My only complaint is that people left far too early! That was really the only thing I truly regret about the day – not being able to spend more time with everyone.
The only really bad thing about the reception was that someone brought me a glass of wine and it stung me. Apparently somewhere between the booze table and where I was standing, a yellow jacket dived kamikaze-style into the wine, so when I took a sip it stung me on the lip. That was the only time I really cried at the wedding, because that hurt like hell. Luckily, Susan pulled out the stinger and my friend from high school, Dr. Jason Blatt (really), got a cigarette from someone and put the wet tobacco on my lip. The tobacco tasted disgusting, but it brought the swelling down almost immediately.
- Being violently ill the morning of the wedding
- Not getting the chuppah done until the last minute
- Not getting the hair extensions in time
- Not writing vows
- Our cake and cupcakes didn’t come through
- Getting stung by a yellow jacket on my lip
- All of our super amazing friends and family who chipped in in SO many ways to make it all come together
- All of John’s immediate family was able to come, and his mom and dad wore awesome hats
- My uber-prepared bridesmaid Allison bringing me medicine for my stomach and delicious snacks for later
- The chuppah getting done eventually and looking badass
- My cousin Ali giving me an awesome wedding updo
- Improvising our vows
- My aunt and cousin saving the day by going to get a cake for us
- My maid of honor reciting the blessings in Hebrew for us (with English translations)
- Getting John to dance with me (only once, but still)
- Getting my dad to dance with me (albeit briefly)
- My friend from high school who couldn’t make it being there via Face Time on another friend’s phone
- Seeing everyone, even though we didn’t get to spend as much time with them as we would have liked
- And the biggest wedding win of all: marrying my best friend
Despite all of the many things that went wrong, I couldn’t imagine a better day.
And now I shall leave you with a few more photos.
We’re married! I definitely won’t say everything went off without a hitch – there were quite a few almost-disasters along the way – but we’re finally husband and wife. I’ll try to do a more complete post on Wednesday after my paper has been turned in (yes, I had a paper to write over my wedding weekend; luckily it’s a fairly short one). I had such a great time at the wedding, but John and I have agreed that we’re never planning a wedding again
We were so grateful for all of our wonderful friends and family who came out to support us, especially all of the magical wedding fairies who prevented the aforementioned almost-disasters from becoming actual disasters. We love you all!
The next post will probably be quite lengthy, because I’m going to go into all of the bumps along the way. Hopefully we’ll have some more photos by then too! I’ve included a couple of the photos we’ve gotten so far in this post, so I’ll give credit where credit is due. The first one is from my cousin, Briana, who was shooting backup for our photographer, Paula. I’m not sure who shot the second photo, but it’s of my cousin, Brent, and his wife, Allyson, who are huge Whovians (who also brought some extra Doctor Who decor for the wedding, which was awesome). They’re standing under our Tardis chuppah, and yes we built it ourselves (which will be another post entirely). The third photo was taken by my friend from high school, Laura.
One final word about the wedding for today is that I am so glad we didn’t schedule the honeymoon for immediately after the wedding. We really scheduled it over fall break so that I wouldn’t miss as much school, but we are still recovering from the lack of sleep and stress of the week leading up the wedding. We were absolutely exhausted yesterday and all we wanted to do was get home and go to bed.
I apologize for the lack of posts recently, but the countdown to the wedding has begun in earnest with only 17 days to go. Of course, school started back last week as well, so that has thrown another hurdle my way. I’m glad the wedding is at the beginning of the semester instead of the end, but even with just doing the readings and actually spending the time in class, it still takes up a lot of my time. Between school and Etsy, I haven’t really had time to get much done, especially the chuppah, which is still a bolt of fabric in the bedroom.
The RSVP deadline was yesterday, but there are still a ton of people I haven’t heard from. Thank you to everyone who RSVP-ed, but if you’re one of those who haven’t done so yet, please go to JohnandAriella.com. I’m starting to worry that far more invitations went astray than I realized (I know of two that didn’t reach their destinations). So if you think you probably should have been invited (or are just in the Hendersonville area and want to come to our wedding), please let me know.
We went to South Carolina to see John’s family last weekend, which was a lot of fun. I went shoe shopping with his mom and sister, and I bought some super cute shoes. It’s always fun to go with someone who has similar taste. Best of all, his mother bought us an awesome cake/cupcake stand for the wedding!
We also figured out (mostly) what we’re doing for the deserts. There’s a place called Horse Shoe Cafe that does breakfast and brunch near where we’re getting married. My mom and step-dad went in a couple of weeks ago and had a cupcake, which they said was amazing. I contacted them and they’re going to do 3 flavors of mini cupcakes plus a round 10″ red velvet cake for us to cut for $123! Now we just have to decide on flavors for the cupcakes. I know John wants one to be yellow cake with plain buttercream, but that leaves two more. What’s your favorite cupcake flavor?
We had a very busy weekend back in Hendo and Ashevegas (Hendersonville and Asheville for the uninitiated). My makeup trial was Saturday and my bridal shower was Sunday. First of all, the shower.
My aunt and my mom went over board on the shower of course. It was a beautiful shower and it was really great to see everyone. The highlight of the day was the card from my cousins, Allyson and Brent. Brent, who is a famous artist, designed the card.
It says, “Regarding your human matrimony: Congratulate!.” The inside says, “Matrimate!” Everyone’s gifts were more than generous though and we got a lot of great stuff for our apartment. The one thing I did not enjoy was the fact that I was sitting in the middle of the room with an audience.
That made me very uncomfortable and I didn’t quite know what to do. I also couldn’t hear people very well, which was embarrassing. It was a really great day overall though.
The day before was my makeup trial. I went to a place in Asheville that does airbrush makeup. I told the woman there that I wanted pretty natural eyes with red lips. When I didn’t like the first result, they toned it down from there. This was the result.
The eyes aren’t exactly natural. I’d like just a bit of liquid liner instead of what she did, which was put on the liquid liner then spend 10 minutes putting black powder over it. Hopefully it will turn out well for the wedding since I’ve already paid for it.
I haven’t had a chance to post much lately because I’ve been quite busy. The summer semester is almost over, so I’ve had research guides due and exams are on Thursday and Friday. Haus of Ariella also recently had it’s 100th sale!
Update #1 – the first of the wedding invitations have gone out! As you may have read earlier, we had some issues with the invitations, but Vistaprint is an AMAZING company and sent us new ones for free, even though the problem was entirely my fault. They sent them priority too, so we got the new ones in less than a week. We’re printing the envelopes instead of handwriting them because John and I both have atrocious handwriting. I think the font we settled on for them is nice though – it’s pretty and wedding-y, but still quite legible. Printing them is a bit of a pain, so I’m trying to do them in small batches instead of all at once. So far we’ve only sent out the invitations to the living Doctors (yes, we’re geeks), but I might work on the others later today and tomorrow in between studying (there’s really only so much federal income taxation one can take at a time, so I need to have breaks anyway).
By the way, if you’re reading this and want to come to our wedding, but didn’t get a save the date, it probably means we don’t have your address (not that we don’t love you), so please message, text, or call me and let me know where to send the invitation.
Update #2 – the wedding dress is progressing. I’ve actually attached the bodice to the skirt since taking this photo, but I’m not sure how I feel about it. I’ll probably make some adjustments to it after I figure out how to put the invisible zipper in it because I’m not really happy with the fit. It’s been fun making it though, so even if I don’t end up wearing it, it’s okay.
Update #3 – we got a washer and dryer finally! Someone in our apartment complex put up a flyer for them and we got them both for $200! It’s really nice not having to schlep up to the laundry room and pay $3 every time we need to wash something, but we’ve totally messed with the cats’ world. Their litter boxes and food bowls used to reside in that closet, so they’re not too happy about the new arrangement.
Update #4 – John got a new phone. He was up for an upgrade, so he got a Droid 3 (which was free, because the Droid 3s are apparently horrifically old and out of date now). He was jealous of my R2-D2 Droid, so he decided to one-up me and got a Tardis phone skin and cropped his background to fit with the skin. Now I’m the one with phone envy.
Update OH MY GOD WE GAVE THE CATS BATHS – we’ve had flea problems since Dave came to live with us. We recently broke down and spent the extra money on Frontline to try to combat them, but apparently we now have super fleas. The other night I got sick of it and decided to bathe them all. We were talking about throwing Dave in a bath in particular because he’s allergic to fleas and has horrible scabs all over. Honestly, it wasn’t really that bad. John couldn’t believe I did it by myself because when he gave Dave a bath, Dave tried to kill him. Lily was actually the worst one, but she just kept flipping herself over in the water, which actually made my job a little easier. Darcy made horrible noises, but didn’t really do anything. Jude is a Maine Coon, so he’s cool with water, though he seemed a little confused about the whole thing. Of course, we then had a bunch of pathetically wet cats wandering around the apartment for the rest of the night.
Of course Darcy had to immediately go back to his new favorite hangout – the electric blanket in the linen closet. Luckily, we now have a washer and dryer, so we threw it in the wash last night to get the wet cat smell off of it. We still have fleas, but John is planning on putting the cats in the bathroom and spraying down the apartment with some flea stuff this week.
The Bitchy Bride recently had a post on her wedding to-do list. She’s a bit closer to her wedding than I am, but her list seemed quite short compared to what I think mine is, but it’s still in just over 3 months. I decided to write it all down to look at it and to post it publicly so that hopefully other people will remind me of things. Here we go.
-Finalize catering menu
-Figure out if the sound system at the farm is going to be good enough or if we need to supplement it somehow
-Make a playlist
-Talk to our officiant about the ceremony
-Write our vows
-Figure out what I’m doing with my hair and what veil/tiara/circlet/etc. I’m going to wear
-See if we need to rent/borrow any extra tables and chairs
-Come up with a rain contingency plan
-Address envelopes and send out our invitations
-Decide on the cake/cupcake issue
-Schedule a makeup trial
-Make Tardis centerpieces
-Decide about how long to hire the photographer for. Although I’d LOVE to have her for all-day coverage, I don’t think we can afford the $795 (though I know that’s a great price)
-Order our wedding bands
-Work on a first dance. I almost had John convinced to try this, but it honestly would be too much work
-Decide on beer and wine
-Figure out transportation
-Go to Hendersonville for my wedding shower at some point
-Get our marriage license
-Get John a passport! I keep offering to front him the money since his boss never seems to pay him, but he hates borrowing anything from me. I know it usually takes 6-8 weeks to get one, but I just want to get it done sooner in case anything goes wrong. It would really suck to have to pay expedited fees on top of the $135 for the passport itself.
-Figure out wedding party gifts that are nice, but that we can actually afford too
Wow, that seems like a lot. I’m also sure I forgot a few things. Do you have any suggestions or items you think I forgot?
Perhaps for my fiance to not have to work until 10pm on a day he’s supposed to have off, but that’s a rant for another day. Other than wishing I were able to spend the day with John, today has been a pretty good day. First of all, I got a new veil finished, took photos, and listed it on Etsy.
I’m probably not going to wear this particular veil for my wedding, but it does look nice with the rest of my wedding ensemble. I’m planning on making another satin edged veil that will be a three tiered veil with the largest layer edged in blue, the next largest in red, and the third is white. I think it would go nicely with our British / Doctor Who theme. Also, if my hair looks slightly darker that’s because it is. I had bleached it after the redcident earlier this year. I got tired of the roots contrasting with the uber blonde bleached parts, so I took John’s advice and dyed it to a shade that’s closer to my natural color. It looks slightly darker than my natural color, but John thinks that’s just because I don’t have any highlights from being in the sun yet.
In other wedding news, I am currently attempting to make another dress. I don’t know if I’ll actually wear it or not, but I’ve fallen in love with the idea of a tea length dress.
It would be this dress with some modifications. First of all, it’s going to be strapless and most of the dress will be white. I also want to lengthen the bodice and midriff slightly. There will be a couple of layers of red contrasting tulle underneath some of the white tulle in the skirt. I’ll keep you informed of how things go with it.
Also, for those of you who didn’t know, John got a hair cut and shaved his beard. For comparison, this is what he looked like at Christmas.
I think he looks good both ways, though he looks a bit younger without the beard (and he doesn’t always look as pissed as he does in the first picture). And if I needed any more reason to love him, he cleaned the living room.
It’s not perfect yet – we still haven’t done much to the office/studio and the bedroom hasn’t been touched – but it’s sooo much better now. I probably would have left those boxes there until we moved again if left to my own devices, but this is much nicer.
Now I’m off to work on that dress!
Trusts and Estates is over! Never again will I have to worry about inter vivos trusts or the rule against perpetuities. At least not until the bar. For the moment though, I’m free of it! I still have three more exams coming up and that damn 20 page paper that’s due next Friday, but at least one is out of the way. The cats seem to be enjoying the whole staying home and studying thing though. They’re also more than happy to keep me company while I’m on the couch with the electric blanket.
The new apartment feels more like home every day. Things are getting put up very slowly because of exams, but after May 4th I’m going to buckle down and get to work. I desperately need to go through my clothes and shoes and make some donations. I have an insane amount of both that I hardly ever wear. Of course, it’s always hard for me to get rid of things because that little voice in the back of my head keeps saying things like, “You never know when you’re going to need that” and “You might fit into that again someday.” That last one is particularly insidious, but this time I’m getting rid of everything size 2 and below. I wasn’t healthy when I was that thin and I don’t need to go back to that. (
Of course, I did lose almost 7 pounds over the past two weeks if my scale is to be believed. I’m a bit incredulous of that though it is an electronic scale that zeros itself every time you turn it on. However, I’ve been eating crap for the past two weeks. We’ve been having wings and pizza and lo mein way too much recently, though last night I did ask my fiance to bring me a salad from his restaurant. Basically the only reason I could have lost weight is stress. If exams make me lose weight, I’ll take the weight instead thank you very much.
Tonight I’m going to work on fulfilling some of my Etsy orders (my Dalek cake toppers are selling like mad) and recharge. Tomorrow I’m going to force John to go with me to vote! If you’re in North Carolina, you can find your One Stop early voting site here. Remember to vote AGAINST Amendment One!
…barely. My lovely fiance, John, and I started moving into our new apartment on Saturday. My advice for anyone considering moving is: don’t. Really, just don’t do it. However, if you really have to move, hire someone to do it for you.
When we decided to move, I told John that I was going to just put an ad on Craigslist for someone to help us move at least the heavy stuff, since I had a few items that I knew I couldn’t even pick up half of (I managed it once when my dad helped me move in, but I think it must have been mostly adrenaline that time). He said that it wasn’t necessary, because he could have some of his friends help. Last week, I asked if he had people to help, and he said that someone had volunteered to help us. On moving day, the person backed out though. I know that moving sucks, and I totally understand why people aren’t too keen on helping out. If you don’t want to do it though, don’t volunteer!
So it was the two of us with a moving van. I had trouble moving the ridiculously heavy piece of glass on the awesome vintage table and chairs his brother’s girlfriend, Susan, had given us, so I knew we were in trouble. I ended up finding someone on Craigslist at the last moment and we paid a guy $15 to help John move my 400 or so pound vintage desk (I’m not entirely exaggerating – it’s made of steel with a really thick Formica top), the mattress, and the new sofa. It may have been the best $15 I’ve ever spent. John still nearly killed himself with that desk, but at least he had someone else with him who was a bit more help than I would have been.
On Sunday we moved the boxes and cleaned, which was supposed to be a fairly easy and quick job, but took forever. We started at 11 am on Sunday morning and finally got the cats to the new apartment at 1:40 am Monday night. Thankfully Susan came out to help us for a while or it would have been even longer. To make matters worse, John had to go back to his old apartment after everything to feed his other cat (Dave hasn’t been neutered yet, so he can’t come over to the new place right now) and do laundry for work.
I will spare you the details of the move other than to say that we have now started a fund with our spare change that we’re calling the “Next Time We’re Hiring Professionals Fund.” Also, I am marrying the most amazing, thoughtful, caring man in the world. Did I mention that we didn’t even move any of his stuff? It was all from my apartment, which he also cleaned like a maniac once it was cleared out. And once we got the cats settled in the new place, he insisted on at least putting up the shower curtain so that I could enjoy a nice shower before I went to bed.
I know you are all dying to see our new place (well the two parental units who read this are at least) so here you go. Please excuse all of the boxes and forgive the bad photography.
I used to post on the Offbeat Bride Tribe, but I had some difficulties with them – well, actually they kicked me off for posting an update that said, “RIP Davy Jones.” While I was there, I got a bit addicted to their journal feature, so I thought I’d start a blog about my wedding to fill the void that OBB left. Even if no one reads it, it will at least make me happy.
So, I’ll start off with a little about me. I’m a law student who met the man of my dreams (of course, I had no idea he was the man of my dreams at the time, but that revelation came shortly after we started dating). He proposed to me on January 25, 2012, and we are getting married on September 22, 2012 outside of Hendersonville, NC. It may seem like a short engagement by some standards, but I’m glad it’s the length it is – it should give us plenty of time to get everything together, but it’s not so long that I get impatient. My mom and step-father agreed to give us $2,000 for the wedding, so that’s pretty much our budget. I’m in school and my fiance doesn’t make much, so we’re going to try to have an awesome wedding on a shoestring.
One thing that has helped immensely is that my Aunt and Uncle have offered to let us use their farm as our venue for free. It’s truly beautiful there, so we’re really excited about it. Yes, that gorgeous horse farm in the picture is actually where we will be getting married. Plus, it’s free – did I mention that part?
My fiance and I went out to the farm last week while I was on spring break (we live four and a half hours away), which was the first time he’d seen it in person. It didn’t disappoint, though we’re going to have issues if it rains. There’s a small covered picnic area, but I don’t think it can hold as many guests as we will have there in the event of inclement weather. We were considering renting a tent just in case, but I was told that that’s incredibly expensive. We’ll see how everything works out. Hopefully, we won’t have to fall back onto any contingency plans.
The other piece of the wedding puzzle we have sorted out is the dress. I originally fell in love with a Mori Lee mermaid-style dress that cost as much as we’re probably going to spend on catering, so that was out. I found a Chinese knock-off site that would make the dress for me for $259, but I was nervous about going that route. Although the particular site I was going to use, Dressilyme, seemed to have more positive reviews that the others (and they would make the dress in burgundy, which was what I really wanted), it was still going to be a gamble. Spending $259 (plus shipping and customs, which would easily bring it to over $300) on a dress that I couldn’t be sure was going to work or even be wearable when my entire wedding budget was $2,000 seemed like too much. When John and I went to Hendersonville to see the farm and visit my parents, we also went dress shopping. I found one at a consignment shop that I liked, but didn’t love. It was $199, but it would have required a good bit of alteration to fit properly. Then, on the way home, John suggested we stop by the place he was going to get his tux in Hillsborough, because they had prom dresses too. So we went to Formal Wear Outlet and found my dress. It’s silver and white, fun, and only cost $125! I ended up getting a size smaller than the one I’m wearing in the picture and the only alteration it needs is to have the neck strap shortened slightly. I’m pretty stoked to have that one out of the way with none of the worry that ordering from China would have brought.
Last, But Not Least – The Shoes
Yes, those are my wedding shoes. And I think they’re awesomely amazing. Perhaps I should elaborate a bit on our wedding theme. We’re going with a Doctor Who theme with a lot of other fantastic Brit-ness thrown in. My fiance wants to get a Union Jack vest, too. I’m also trying to find a Union Jack bolero to go with the shoes. Not that I’d need the theme to wear these babies – I’d wear them to the grocery store (and actually have). My mother, of course, hates them, but that’s par for the course. At least she’s happy about the dress.